Why do some individuals feel that their relationships MUST work regardless of how unhappy they are Do some people seek some sort of salvation through their relationships? Does a relationship somehow validate that person, make them feel worthy? Is there such a thing as addictive relationships where the individuals become dependent upon pathological patterns of interaction like a drug

Pulling the plug is seldom easy. And, unfortunately men are viewed as emotional eunchs who drift in and out of relationships - another topic - but I had to say it

Anyhoo... We often give power over ourselves to things and circumstances outside of us. In reality, a contradiction in terms, an oxymoron The beginning of wisdom, so to speak, is that each individual is responsible for their wellbeing, whether emotional, physical, mental, or spiritual Our life circumstances may change, but our life, that what makes us who we are, is under our control ALONE, as quiet as it's kept, and can only be given to another "ARTIFICIALLY" at our detriment!

The time to pull the plug, varies from person, to person.... Working as a director at domestic violence
facilities, gave me a lot of insight as to how people will react to similar situations...
On the outside, as an observer, we don't see and feel all the internal dynamics, that shapes a person
point of pulling the plug.... It's very complex. It as though, the rest of the world is watching a movie staring you,(at least that how I felt), and they see some of the things you see, and they want to know , why don't he run, for his safety... Making a decision to run for cover, or pulling the plug, is a very difficult decision to make ... especially if it involves a lot of history and other lives... If the person decide to do so, the day they came to that conclusion, takes a hell of a lot of pondering, and possibly, re visiting a lot of painful moments..... It aint easy... so I know when I'm watching the movies, why sometimes they don't run...