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Before we can embark upon the path to real LOVE, we need to know what LOVE is. Does your definition bring you what you seek in your relationships? If what you define as LOVE repeatedly brings you the same life challenges, or the same person in a different individual, maybe it's your definition that ails? If not, you will always ask "Where is the Love?" because your definition is not taking you where you say you want to go. What do you think?

A quote from Bell Hooks
Salvation:Black People and Love:

The capacity to love is so tied to being able to be awake, to being able to move out of yourself and be with someone else in a manner that is not about your desire to possess them, but to be with them, to be in union and communion

Love is not demanding, constraining, stiffling or conditional of who you are or want to be. Love should be uplifting and liberating. what many people call love, I believe, is possession. A relatingship, marriage or otherwise, does not conote ownership. What folks call love in this modern society is in many case self love. Much of what we want out of a relationship centers upon "what I want."