If you remember, Neo, the hero in the film ‚The Matrix‚ was given a choice by Morpheus. Choose the blue pill to remain in the illusory world of the Matrix, a world that was an elaborate simulation designed to hide it's inhabitants from who they are. Or, choose the red pill and face reality, for the first time with life's real challenges and ultimate successes. We all know what choice the hero made and he was consequently transformed as were those around him.

We all face a similar choice regarding our relationships. Unfortunately, too many of us choose the blue pill and opt to remain in a relationship world that is a figment of our media induced imaginations that in reality have little to do with the happiness we claim to seek. Welcome to the Matrix.

Recently, Michael Baisden, a nationally syndicated radio personality, aired a show titled All About the Benjamins. The question asked during the show was how would a man feel if his significant other made more money than he did? Also asked was what would be the impact upon men if their women were more educated.

Overwhelmingly, the men that called in expressed insecurity regarding what they perceived as the women having more materially, and consequently, more power than they did. Many of the women that called in described negative relationship experiences where they had greater income or education.