Relationships: September 2006 Archives

The author is unknown, this was recently emailed to me. What do you think? Is there any truth in this? The Flow wants to know!

THE TOP TEN REASONS YOU ((DON'T)) HAVE A MAN

The 10 Acknowledgements

(Message to the "dating" black woman)

1. First Impressions-Attitude-From how you see the world to your physical demeanor when around brothas, your attitude, words, and mannerisms will either attract, or keep brothas from even approaching you.

2. Looks- Sista, despite what the world i.e., this culture/society says the great majority of black men do NOT want a Kate Moss bulimic body type. There are many of us who want a woman who has some 'meat' on her bones. Excessive make-up, hair extensions, fake nails, eyes and other things that DON'T extenuate your NATURAL beauty are unnecessary in many of our eyes, since sistas are naturally beautiful in the first place. However there is a difference between phat and fat and at the very least for health reasons, sistas should be concerned about diet and exercise. Heart disease, high blood pressure, cancer and other preventable diseases and death are no joke and affect sistas at much higher rates than other women.

Miss Trust

Trust is a big word
–huge even–
it contains the beginning of truth
yet it ends in rust
leading me to wonder if all that is not false
will eventually
corrode

Once upon a time I trusted in a man
who abused my trust my innocence
my powerlessness my overall need to rely
on him
he touched what was private
something belonging only to me
then he denied the whole matter
calling it a mistake–simply