Join The FLOW and FLOW panelists, Deborah Cofer author of If He's "Hooked on P_ _ _ _ " Buy him a cat...: The Spiritual Rules for Dating, Relating, and Mating! Robert Gardner, author of The Choices We Make on Heart of the Matter, the Relationships Magazine on Sunday, December 6th at 6PM.

In our rush into a relationship, too many believe that sex is the gateway to intimacy and miss the opportunity to develop a real friendship, the starting point of healthy relationships. Have we been duped into believing that sex is the pathway to true love or is it? Do our expectations regarding sex get in the way of really getting to know the other person or is it all self gratification?

Sex in a new relationship is really about how we define ourselves and what behaviors we bring into relationships. These behaviors can be the result of upbringing, religious beliefs, cultural traditions, and past experiences, neither of which authentically define who we are, and impede meaningfulness and real intimacy.

When to Give it Up is an important conversation regarding the underlying reasoning behind our behaviors that fail to take us were WE SAY we wish to go in our relationships. So, the question is not only When To Give It UP but Why Are You Giving It UP? Are we both the victims and perpetrators of a faulty frame of reference.

Most parents have hopeful dreams of raising their children to be independent, healthy and successful adults. However, looking at the current relationship landscape with its pervasive emotional and sexual abuse, domestic violence, and male domination and control, begs the question as to why have so many parents and caregivers have been so unsuccessful in translating their visions into healthy, self affirming realities for our girl children? How much of our girl children’s relationship choices are influenced by the emotional environment created by their parents and caregivers? How do parents and the quality of their relationships impact a young girl’s resultant definitions of womanhood, masculinity, self esteem and intimacy?

How many of these women are trying to make up for the neglect, absence, or abuse of their parents, experienced as children in their current romantic relationships? What can we do to assist our girls, the women of our collective futures, who will be partners, wives and mothers and who again replicate, in subsequent lives, what they, in turn have been taught by experience and example?

Join The FLOW and guests Yasmin Shiraz, author and lecturer of the issues regarding girls and young women, and Ernestine Heldring of Scenarios USA, a nonprofit organization that that uses writing and film making to foster youth leadership, advocacy and self-expression in under-served teens as we explore Preparing Our girls for Healthy Relationships on Heart of the Matter, the Relationships Magazine on Sunday, November 22nd at 6PM.

Since 2005, The FLOW(For Love Of The World)has presented a unique dialogue with topics such as "Why Men Fear Love & Committment"; "Sex, Religion & Spirituality"; " Are You Ready For a Relationship?"; etc. The FLOW was developed by Angelo Hunt, Roy Frank and Marc Collins to promote a constructive dialogue between men and women regarding relationships. Flow forums provide a venue where fundamental relationship issues are discussed that go beyond "baby momma drama" so prevalent in the media. Most recently, The FLOW has aired Heart of the Matter, The Relationship Magazine on Blogtalk Internet Radio

• The Prime Relationship is with yourself! Having a healthy, loving relationship with yourself is a key to successful relationships.
• We are complete within ourselves. Relationships should enhance who we are not complete us.
• Relationships are experiences that allow us to grow and redefine ourselves, if we choose.
• We are responsible for our choices and consequently our relationship outcomes.

From the dialogue initiated by three men, The FLOW has evolved into a process, an exploration, an interchange of ideas and feelings regarding relationship fundamentals. In The FLOW we seek to go beyond the assumptions, traditions, gender roles, and socially defined frames of reference that get in the way of meaningful relationships.

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What is Fatherhood? Is it a role, a frame of reference, a behavior, or just a set of socially sanctioned activities? At one time fathering meant being a good provider, not a nurturer or a homemaker. Today the role of a father has greatly expanded? Has it evolved to reflect who we are as a human being as opposed to a narrowly defined behavior? Is fatherhood something innate to men or a process to be understood, and developed based upon our own personal histories? Is being a “good” father different than being a good person? Do all men have the qualities to be “good” or more importantly healthy father?

We often hear about the value of fatherhood. Is it more than just being present in the home? How essential are father’s as opposed to having a healthy home environment and caregivers? Are there unique values and frames of reference that fathers should pass on to their progeny and children they care for. Fatherhood does not exist in a vacuum. It cannot fully examined without considering the mother or her absence and how society impacts the father role.Fathers are often the role models for love & intimacy, masculinity, gender equality, the treatment of women, etc. What’s the impact of all this for home, family and society?

Join The FLOW, guests and callers on Heart of the Matter, The Relatiionship Magazine, www.blogtalkradio.com/the-flow on November 15th at 6PM where we will explore the multi-demensions of fatherhood. Please share your comments here or send The FLOW email at flow4theworld@verizon.net and of course, join us on Heart of the Matter.