Relationship Sins by Robert T. Gardner
Robert T. Gardner Jr. is the author of The Choices We Make, a book about how our choices can foster or impede healthy loving. Robert has been a FLOW Harlem Book Fair panelist and a guest on Heart of the Matter, The FLOW’s internet radio magazine. In The FLOW we have often stated that it is not uncommon for individuals to be in a relationship that have nothing really to do with their partners. It’s all about need fulfillment. And, most importantly, the beginning of any relationship begins with your relationship with yourself. What folks call love often has nothing to do with giving and receiving healthy, self affirming love, again it’s all about need fulfillment.
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Relationship Sins:
A relationship sin is the thing you do with or for another person that you know is not good for you. It is when you know to do better and you do something to make somebody else happy, but you hurt yourself in the process. There is a list of relationship sins listed below. Be mindful that there are many relationship sins that we commit. However, I thought the list below was appropriate for this book. If you know of other relationship sins, please add them to this list.
Then, review the entire list so you do not repeat the relationship sins of your past. Your failure to learn from your sinful mistakes can have a catastrophic impact on your life. Do not take your relationship choices for granted. If you see what you think you see in a person’s behavior, then you really see what you saw. Take some action and make some changes in your relationship, if warranted.
- To see signs of abuse when you meet a person and take no action to get out of that relationship.
- To settle for a bad relationship with someone because you do not want to be lonely.
- To stay in a relationship with someone who cheats on you.
- To allow your partner to hit you and you stay in that relationship.
- To sacrifice your happiness to stay with someone who shows you they will never be happy.
- To believe the words of a person who says they love you, but their actions do not show you love.
- To allow yourself to be disrespected by your partner both publicly and privately.
- Fail to love yourself and understand the gifts that God has given you.
- To believe there is no life, for you, after a divorce because you have children.
- Not accept responsibility for your actions and fail to learn from your mistakes
- To think your partner loves you more when he/she is extremely jealous and insecure.
- Not address your personal childhood or adult issues that preclude you from being happy.
- To allow your man to control and dominate you because he is a man. (You have the power)
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thank you for the interesting article.