Love is forgetting about yourself, love is not selfish, love does not look for fights or a winner, love involves two people giving of themselves for the betterment of the other. It's vitally important to see that love is a commitment and not a feeling. The feeling of love can come and go, but true love does not change or wavier. Too many poeple today think that love is what can you do for me, when it needs to be what can I do for you. All humans were made to give, as a society we respect those who give, whether its money or talents. Love fills us but to experience true love we must first empty ourselves for the sake of another.

What love really is, we, as a society have been conditioned to seek the opposite. Love becomes possession, control, domination, an attempt to fulfill an unwholesome self.

It's like the difference between a grape and grape flavoring. Most prefer the flavoring because they have never savored the real fruit. It's one thing to really love, it's another to find another who can joyfully accept it. Real love can be frightening to the uninitiated.

LOVE IS SOMETHING THAT A PERSON CAN NOT CONTROL. WHEN YOU ARE HURT AND WANT TO FORGET THAT INDIVIDUAL THE LOVE IS NEVER LOST BUT HAS TO BE DISPLACED.YOU MAY WANT TO FORGET THEM BUT THEY ARE ALWAYS ON YOUR MIND.TO ADD, I AGREE THAT PEOPLE ARE SET TO BELIEVE THAT THEY HAVE TO LOVE SO THEY ARE ALWAYS LOOKING FOR IT EVEN IF THEY NEVER REALLY KNOW THE TRUE FEELING OF LOVE.

Love is a choice, but a choice based on what,a movie, a love song, a disfunctional upbringing? We should be very clear about what we call love. What someone offers as love, to me may look like a wet mop. Are we really loving or just loving ourselves?

Love is a feeling in which we all go through throughout our lives. There are many variations of love. There is the love between family, friends, and the love between two individuals who are committed to each other. It's tough to define the term love as just one specific definition. Everyone has their own definition of love, but whatever it may be, we all experience love at some point in our lifetime.

love is the ability to have the strength and will power to put the needs of your mate before the needs and wants of yourself without compromising your belief system -- it is a fine line -- and a test of will, strength and belief in yourself -- but the ability to walk this fine line defines love -- for you do not surrender your true self -- yet you are tested to fulfill the needs of your mate!

Thanks so much for your comments Evelyn,

In The FLOW we say that a healthy, self afffirming love begins with the quality of the relationship you have with yourself. We believe if you don't love yourself first, it will impede your ability to give a healthy love, and to receive it as well.

I would offer a different definition of love than your your own, from the the book "The Mirages of Marriage". "When the satisfaction or the security of another becomes as significant to one as is one's own satisfction or security, then the state of love exists." I believe that leaving your own growth and development out of the relaitonship equation leads only to a lack of satisfaction the inability to achieve the goal of healthy loving and being loved.

Right! Love is not demanding for it is patience and the most of all is that love forgives.