Diets & Relationships
Just as there is no lack of variety and failure regarding diets, the same can be said about relationships. Most folks would say that the reason they embark upon a diet is to lose weight, the real reasons run the gamut, from fitting into a swimsuit to catching that someone's attention, to conforming to a concept of beauty that does not fit. Is this really about YOU, the individual? Consequently, people persue the questionable, and even the hazardous to lose weight. After a while, the list of diets attempted, with less than satisfying results reads like a Christmas list.
So too, in our quest of relationships, many persue the questionable and the hazardous, ignoring their well being. Even with the twenty-first century innovations of speed dating and the internet, the unfulfillng relationship outcomes still accumulate like disgarded diets. The FLOW advocates that the path for relationship success begins with looking inward. Fads do not change relationship dynamics.
- The Prime Relationships is with yourself: Having a healthy, loving relationship with yourself is a key to successful relationships.
- We are complete within ourselves: Relationships should enhance who we are not complete us.
- Relationships are experiences that allow us to grow and redefine ourselves, if we choose.
By looking within, we can begin to understand the real reasons for relationship dissatisfaction that may not have anything to do with the other person and take responsibility. Experts say that diets with the most lasting effects are lifestyle changes. To begin to understand why that same person keeps popping up over and over again in relationships, there must be a similar frame-of-reference change, where YOU--your emotional, spiritulal, intellectual, financial ands sexual well being comes first. Starving yourself is a sure road to the old diet heap
The FLOW wants to hear your comments. Are you on a diet or persuing a healthy frame-of-reference?
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This is a great analogy. As we move about in our daily lives looking for immediate quick fixes, like a pill to melt away the pounds or even more drastically gastrobypass surgery ...we have lost sight of the commitment and hard work that goes into "getting the weight off and keeping it off" one pound at a time. As with relationships, a regimine is often required. First our mindset must be right and the hard questions answered...what am I really looking for in a partner?...why have my other quests ultimately been unsuccessful?...do I really deserve what I seek?....Once we know the answers we must decide that short cuts short change us and make a commitment to seek what we desire for real...while we have all heard the term "all that glitters ain't gold" sometimes we get lost in the sparkle and get diverted by some "fad or gimmick" that takes us away from the real desire of our heart. We all deserve (to borrow a quote from a friend) "not just the sizzle but the steak". It is essential that we are able to distinguish the difference for ourselves and not settle for anything less.
Like love, diets are verbs, not a noun.
have never thought about it like that before. Thanks so much for the depth and understanding at which you covered the topic. it's a useful piece of information not only for me but for many others. have read a lot on the topic at different blogs and books (download mainly from http://www.picktorrent.com but this piece really gives food for thought