A Case for Monogamy
Monogamy does not preclude dating. Dating is a process of testing the waters where one actively seeks to meet those of the opposite sex to determine the possibility of a relationship. What "A Case for Monogamy" is referring to is once an individual makes a choice to pursue a relationship with an individual!
Relationships today are often entered into arbitrarily and at a dizzying pace. Cultivating a meaningful relationship requires taking the time to really know a person, and in the process, establishing intimacy on many levels beyond the physical. The time and effort required to successfully do this becomes difficult at best with multiple partners. Add to this, today's health challenges from AIDS and STD's to the sexual and performance issues faced by both men and women, having multiple relationships can almost be schizophrenic.
A relationship is a reciprocal process self-discovery and opening oneself to another individual. To engage in this process requires courage and the cultivation of a trust that takes time and cannot be rushed. This process of discovery and sharing both honors and displays mutual respect of the participants. To successfully do this, with multiple partners, though possible, in my opinion, is beyond the capabilities of most men and women. That's my take, what's yours.
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It's my opinion that relationships today are so much more complex than in the past. There are so many more components that go into a relationship now. It's no longer as easy as you meet, you fall in love, you marry. There are standards by which we chose our partners that go beyond just loving someone. Do they make enough money, do they have stability, are they disease free (as sad as that sounds)? In the end it seems that we must carry a checklist of our own criteria for someone to meet in order to consider them "relationship material".
Though there may be many more variables to consider today in choosing a partner. I think that there is a greater likelyhood of developing a relationship based upon love, intimacy, communication that there were in the past, where relationships that were more based upon tradition, duty and social convention.
The monogamy itself hasn't ever existed because it contradicts the human phisiology, the relationship between sexes is an individual issue and there are no similar istances within the whole mankind. Do you agree?