I believe there is a mutual disconnect between men and women regarding who they are in their relationships. Women on one hand, have been socialized to be caretakers and fixers. consequently, they cater to the many flawed male egoes with just as flawed expectations. Men on the other hand are struggling with and failing at, self affirming definition of who they are as men. Many women and men are either living in a failed past or projecting their present into an fearful future, too often, not savoring the present. Relationships should be venues for mutual growth and self-discovery. As stated in the book "The Seven Levels of Intimacy" by Mahtew Kelly, "the purpose relationships should be to be condusive to each partner becoming the best version of themselves. What your take! THE FLOW WANTS TO KNOW!!!!

Monogamy does not preclude dating. Dating is a process of testing the waters where one actively seeks to meet those of the opposite sex to determine the possibility of a relationship. What "A Case for Monogamy" is referring to is once an individual makes a choice to pursue a relationship with an individual!

Relationships today are often entered into arbitrarily and at a dizzying pace. Cultivating a meaningful relationship requires taking the time to really know a person, and in the process, establishing intimacy on many levels beyond the physical. The time and effort required to successfully do this becomes difficult at best with multiple partners. Add to this, today's health challenges from AIDS and STD's to the sexual and performance issues faced by both men and women, having multiple relationships can almost be schizophrenic.

A relationship is a reciprocal process self-discovery and opening oneself to another individual. To engage in this process requires courage and the cultivation of a trust that takes time and cannot be rushed. This process of discovery and sharing both honors and displays mutual respect of the participants. To successfully do this, with multiple partners, though possible, in my opinion, is beyond the capabilities of most men and women. That's my take, what's yours.