Just as there is no lack of variety and failure regarding diets, the same can be said about relationships. Most folks would say that the reason they embark upon a diet is to lose weight, the real reasons run the gamut, from fitting into a swimsuit to catching that someone's attention, to conforming to a concept of beauty that does not fit. Is this really about YOU, the individual? Consequently, people persue the questionable, and even the hazardous to lose weight. After a while, the list of diets attempted, with less than satisfying results reads like a Christmas list.

So too, in our quest of relationships, many persue the questionable and the hazardous, ignoring their well being. Even with the twenty-first century innovations of speed dating and the internet, the unfulfillng relationship outcomes still accumulate like disgarded diets. The FLOW advocates that the path for relationship success begins with looking inward. Fads do not change relationship dynamics.

• The Prime Relationships is with yourself: Having a healthy, loving relationship with yourself is a key to successful relationships.


• We are complete within ourselves: Relationships should enhance who we are not complete us.


• Relationships are experiences that allow us to grow and redefine ourselves, if we choose.

By looking within, we can begin to understand the real reasons for relationship dissatisfaction that may not have anything to do with the other person and take responsibility. Experts say that diets with the most lasting effects are lifestyle changes. To begin to understand why that same person keeps popping up over and over again in relationships, there must be a similar frame-of-reference change, where YOU--your emotional, spiritulal, intellectual, financial ands sexual well being comes first. Starving yourself is a sure road to the old diet heap

The FLOW wants to hear your comments. Are you on a diet or persuing a healthy frame-of-reference?

WHY MEN CHEAT?

When the question of why men cheat is asked, it is met with all the usual responses; men say "because they can"; women say "all me are dogs"; others say "women allow it to happen." Nonetheless, It is generally assumed that cheating is something all men are prone to do sooner or later, and women are its hapless victims.

The Flow argues that cheating is just not some uncontrollable male impulse that women are at the mercy of, but cheating is something where we all, men and women are both the perpetrators and victims. There is no simple answer as to why men cheat.

Panelists:

• Ruth Houston, author of Is He Cheating On You? 829 Tell-Tale Signs
• Kurin, author of The Black Man's Guide to How To Cheat On Your Woman
• S.S. Neely, author of Avoiding The Dating Games
• Derrick Watkins, relationship authorThe Black Man's Guide to Dating

Join The FLOW

on

November 18th 3-5pm

The Hue-Man Book Store

2319 Frederick Douglas Blvd (Between 124th and 125th St

Harlem, New York 10027

212 665-7400

Coming To
The Hue-Man Book Store
2319 Frederick Douglas Blvd (Between 124th and 125th St.)
Harlem, New York 10027
212 665-7400

 

Sunday, October 21th
How History & Culture Impacts our Relationships

Sunday, November 18th
Why Men Cheat

Sunday, January 20th 2008
Visions of Love:Beyond Fiction
Romance Authors Talk About Love and Relationships

Sunday, March 16th 2008
When To Give It UP?: Sex in a new Relationship

Sunday, April 20th 2008
Why Do Men Fear Love and Commitment?


All panels will be held from 3pm-5pm