The Matrix Revisited

Where does the red pill lead us you may ask? I believe that can lead to self awareness, the first steps to meaningfulness in our individual lives and in our relationships. Bell Hooks, in her book, The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love talks about how we live in a patriarchal society where both men and women are removed from their true selves. Men are rendered out of touch with who they are emotionally; left pursue a macho fantasy that perverts their own lives and their relationships as well, this entails their relationships not only with their significant others, but also with other men, their children, their siblings and society. Women on the other hand, have been raised to enforce these male fantasies, though they may say otherwise and suffer as a result.

To believe that our relationships complete us as opposed to enhancing who we are is to remain in The Matrix. To believe that you must be in a relationship as opposed to “must” having a healthy relationship with ourselves is to remain in The Matrix. For both men and women to accept media induced concepts of manhood and womanhood that impact the quality of our relationships is to live in the simulated world of The Matrix.

Mathew Kelly, in his book The Seven Levels of Intimacy says “If we choose to base our relationships upon a foundation of a common goal to become the-best-version-of-ourselves...then our relationship will likely be marked with joyfulness and contentedness.” To base relationships upon the positive evolution of the participants as opposed to the veiled need fulfillment prevalent in many relationships is not a painless process. However, it is a process that will yield, I believe, relationships that can thrive and provide satisfaction even if they are not everlasting. Do you dare to take the red pill? The Flow wants to know your opinion?