Love & Happiness: Still Looking?

Kean U. 4/9/07:

1. Why do men consider having sex a good way to reconcile, show affection, express empathy or apologize?

2. Why do men retreat/run/hide rather than confront conflict or discuss difficulty?

1. Do you feel that true satisfaction in a relationship is being loved by the one you love?

2. Why wouldn't a monogamous relationship bring fulfillment?

1.)If trust has been broken in a previous relationship, what is the best way to avoid bringing those trust issues into the next relationship?

2.) Do you belive there are ways to prevent a person from cheating or do you believe that if a person wants to cheat he/she will do it regardless of what their partner does to prevent it?

Most men say they would love to have a woman who is basically uninhibited in many ways, yet they typically do not want the permanent woman in their life to be "that kind of a girl." What can women do to help men realize that most women do not want to be thought of as madonna-type figures.

Women often do more work than men in making a relationship work. I don't believe that men do not want to be in a relationship - if they are in fact in a relationship. I think they really do not know what to do and they probably feel it is not their job - especially when they grew up seeing their mothers doing most of the relationship management. How do we guide our partners in participating in the work, and how do we women stop beating up or men for not being so proactive in makign the relationship work?

1. one thing i have noticed in many relationships is the difficulty many people in a struggling long term relationship, is the fear of leaving and starting all over.how would you recommend people overcome that fear?

2. any suggestions on how to overcome commitment issues?

1.Why is that men seem so nonchalant about whether or not relationships work out?

2.Do men believe women cheat as much as me do?

why is it so hard to let go and get out of a relationship that is just not going to work out?

It is said to be human is to stay connected to friends, family, and people in general. What advice would you give to a woman if her best friend continues to neglect honest advice that causes the best friend to get hurt? Should this woman distance herself and associate with friends that are more stable/successful in life? If she distance herself, how can she deal with the guilt of feeling inhumane by abandoming her best friend?

1.)Some people say that they have been in love numerous times, but they were all different types of love. How can a person be in romantic love in different ways? Isn't to be in love, simply to be in love?
2.)Do you think that it is healthy or unhealthy to be 100% honest in a relationship? Should each partner have secrets of their own or should every single thing be out there in the open?

my husband gets up much earlier than I do, so he falls asleep much earlier. When days and days go by w/o having sex, he tends to imply that it's my fault for not being in the mood. How do i convince him that it's hard to gey in the mood when he's already asleep? I'm trying not to put him on the defensive, or get 'whiney' about it.

A guy and a girl I know broke up because he was always angry all the time (not physically violent, though), She called it off, needing some space. She tried to remain as friends, and to stay in touch, since he was so distraught. All he did,however, was rub a new girlfriend in the old one's face, bringing up the new one's name every chance he got.(He seemed quick to jump into another relationship soon after the break up). The old girlfriend finally stopped IMing. I personally think she was the best thing ever for him, and that he was a nicer, calmer person when he was w/ her. Do you think they stand a chance of ever getting back together? Is there anything I can do to help nudge them back? (I'm in contact w/ both parties).

thank you for your time.

Is love ever just enough to keep a relationship together?

How much should you give up for the person you love?

What is the difference between infatuation and attachment? Is there a difference?

why do you think men don't put as much emphasis into being in a relationship as women do

Why do men always spend more time with their friends yet they do not give the same attention to their girlfriends?

Why are men always defining a woman by they type of body she has, how she grooms herself or how she dresses? Is her mind not good enough anymore?

How do you balance a relationship with your friends and with your girlfriend?

Kean U.

There’s a saying, “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” It is common knowledge to people that if someone cheated and got away with it, that they are probably going to try it again. Do you believe that to be true? Or can a cheating man really change his ways?

In today’s modern society, there are many unhappy marriages where the excitement and passion is totally gone. Is it possible to be in love with someone throughout the entirety of a marriage? Or does that part of the relationship just fade away with time? Also, I am curious to know the statistics on the current divorce rate in the US; can any of you provide us with that information?

1) What is the difference between love, lust, and attachment, and how do you know when you feel one?

How can you stop from bringing up issues and fears you had with an ex-boyfriend and putting them on the new boyfriend when he or she has not done anything wrong?

questions to asks when getting to know someone?

How can some men and women know what's good for them in a realtionship if they do not take advice from happy long term marriages? Why get advice from single friends who are not married?

I agree that those who are married can provide more insight into the joys and challenges of marriage which is not necessarily the same as a fulfilling, meaningful union. However,I would argue that the number of happy, long term relationships are in the minority. If you are judging success by the numbers, there are many marriages that have longivity, but I would dispute the quality of most.

Whether married or single the fundamental relationship issues remain the same, and statistics show that married folks have no monopoly on relationship success. In fact, for the fist time in recent history there are more non-married than married people in the US. What does that say about the desirability and success of marriage as is currently envisioned and practiced? The fact is that married folks are as much in the dark about relationship success as those that are not.