February 2007 Archives

On February 26, The FLOW will hosting a panel discussion as part of the New York City Human Resources Administration's (HRA) Black History Program for their employees. This will be the second year that The Flow has been invited to participate in this event.

Spoken Word Artists LadySeoul and Fabien Miranda will perform their poetry.

Topic: Relationship Skills:AreYou Really Suited To Be In A Relationship?

Just because you can be in a relationship, does not mean you should. Just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean you possess the tools to make it sucessful. Are you really calabrated for success in a relationship? How do you know?

Panelist:

Lisa Durden - Cable TV host and Producer
Dr. Carlton Payne - Published Author & Therapist
Kena Sears - Relationship Talk Show Host
Dr. Luticia Santipriya - psychologist, khemetic priest and Published Author

That is what women are asking themselves when Valentines Day rolls around. We are very preoccupied with, is our man going to remember to get us something for Valentines Day? Or what is our man going to give us for Valentines Day? We put a lot of stock in that day as the day for our boyfriends, fianc?©s or husbands to prove that he loves us and how much he loves us.

Now, it is perfectly OK for women to be excited about getting a gift on Valentines Day. Gifts are wonderful. But let’s not get confused, gifts don’t mean that a man loves you. I dated a man for 7 years and he gave me gifts, we went on vacations, and he treated me to many diners. I DID NOT FEEL LOVED ONE DAY. How a man treats you determines his love for you. We need to stop putting so much pressure on our man to get us gifts as a reflection of their love for us. We need to stop getting mad when our man forgets Valentines Day. It is just a day.

The Bridgeport, Connneticut event was an engaging and lively affair. Of course, in addressing the topic "Defining Love For Yourself" there could be no definitive conclusion. However, The FLOW believes that any definition should be one that works in your relationship, NOT JUST AN ASSUMPTION... The attendees shared some very personal experiences infused with humor, passion, and at times deep conviction.

This event was presented by A People United and Gallery 1212. Thank you CoCo and Gerald for making this affair a reality. The event was taped and streamed live over the internet by Ken Webb, thanks Ken. The dialogue will be available for viewing at Webb Internet Radio at http://www.kenwebb.com/main.html, channel 10.

We of The FLOW, Angelo, Roy, and Marc are both pleased and honored to been given, again the opportunity to share our views on relationships. We always learn so much from these events. Thank you!

A special thanks to our co-panelist, Lisa Durden. Thank you for your energy, engaging perspectives and the Durden Flava! Below are some pictures from the affair.

Please join The FLOW at the first of our relationahip series at the Hue-man Book Store on March 17th, 2319 Frederick Douglass Blvd, Between 124th and 125th Streets New York, NY 10027, Tel: 212-665-7400. SEE YOU THERE!

"A PEOPLE UNITED" SERIES PRESENTS UNITY IN THE COMMUNITY
in conjunction with
GALLERY 1212
FEATURING
THE FLOW

The Bridgeport Innovation Center
955 Connecticut Avenue, Bridgeport, Connecticut
Saturday, February 17, 2007
5:00 P.M. to 12:00 A.M.
The cost is $10. Bring plenty of business cards too!!!

Join us as we explore...

The Language of Love: Defining Love For Yourself!

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Myla has been gracing FLOW gatherings with her verses over the past year. She capitivated our audience at the 2006 Harlem Book Fair Relationship Panel with "For the Bitch Who Stole My Husband." She enthralled us at the Intimate Engagements Botique in New Jersey with "Sexually Me." She gave us pause at the Hue-Man Book Store in Harlem with "My God I Loved You So." "My Poetry, My Words (shown above) is her book of poetry . Check out Myla at future FLOW forums and in the Spoken Word category on this site along with other spoken word artists

Over the course of my adult years I had many female friends who when they got a man stopped calling me, stopped hanging out with me or when we did get together, their man had to accompany them. Sometimes I want to just have girl time. There are things that I want to share with my girlfriends that I don’t want her man to hear.

Women like this use their single girlfriends for their convenience. And they don’t think that we see the bullshit. You know how they do, when she is mad at her man, all of a sudden she can call you, the single girlfriend, to spend time with you. One of my girlfriends from college and I eat out for lunch together, go to step shows, parties, and just hang out on campus doing nothing.

When she got married I noticed that the calls were fewer and fewer. I was only being invited to baby showers, baby parties, christenings, and family functions. But when I would call her to go to a play, dinner, or a womens retreat she was busy. There were times where this girlfriend would call me and say, “hey girl, let’s hook up for lunch or dinner, just me and you, I haven’t seen you in a while.” I would accept, get really excited and when I got there, it was a bitch session for her to talk about all of the f----d up shit going on in her marriage. So I started to realize that she was using me as a sounding board when her relationship was in the toilet.

Presents

Men on Sex, Love & Relationships

March 17th: Choosing a Partner: Is it Love or a Booty Call?

May 19th: Are You Ready For a Relationship? Love Calibration

August 14th: Do You Mean What I mean: Developing a Relationship Dictionary

Oct 20th: When To Give It UP: Sex in a new Relationship

Dec 15th: Women on Relationships: Why Do Men Fear Love and Commitment?

at the

Hue-Man Book Store
2319 Frederick Douglass Blvd
Between 124th and 125th Streets
New York, NY 10027
Tel: 212-665-7400

Join the Dialogue!