Love Shouldn't Hurt

For me, it's of a personal and public concern, to raise dialogue and issues, regarding the quality of our relationshoips with one another. Any discussion, about the future of the community, regarding the politics or economics, should share with eqaul footing, the quality of our relationships. Which is clearly, I believe, a barometer of the collective conciousness of our emeotional health. And the quality of our relationship with one another, is a reflection of the quality of the relationship, we have with ourselves. And moreover, we are modeling for our children, We are in essence saying, " this is the path to take." And in this path, are we providing them with a way of being in healthy communion with another?

As a society, we sholuld be reaching for a relationship paradigm,that will assist with developing a path, towards a relationship view, that will nurture a sustainable healthy way of relating to one another.

Relationships can be powerful vehicle forgrowth. They should, I believe bring two people together to create, grow and enjoy, rather than compensate for lost or dyfunctional parts of ourselves. All the more reason, we should learn to make better choices, of individuals who are emotionally, spiritually and intellectually calibrated for us.

Love, I believe, should assist with expanding our humanity. Love shold not result in painful treatment. We should learn to recognize unhealthy connection/ relationships.
is there something within ourselves, perhaps unconcious, that motivate us to seek out a counter compliment, to something unhealthy in us?

Learn to trust your gut feelings when it come sto sensing the quality of a relationship. Diminishing intimacy, sex, through the closing of the heart, are signs, that their trouble in praradise. And everything in the relationship, may be subject to constant criticism.

By definition, domestic violence is a pattern of beahvior, used by another, to gain power and control, over another initmate partner. And although there are instances of female to male, and smae sex violnce, ( which for the most part, goes unreported),each year, over 2 million womwn are abused by men in the United States.

Studies have shown, although not conclusisve, the men very often, have a hisory of violent crimes, and may have had a restraining order, either past or present.

We are in a criticle point in hisory where we should be examining the old paradigm of relating, and replacing it, with a healthier version. Replacing the old, is a process, and when I last looked, there was not a unified stucture waiting to be dropped in it's place.

It will involve, I believe, identifying root beliefs, that underwrite the current paradigm, and identifying healthier ways of relating to one another. A sort of transformation of conciousness if you will.

So in the end, love/relationships, should not result in painful treatment. They should provide a platdorm for two individuals to become a better version of themselves, emotionally, spirtually and intellectually. I also believe, when seeking a love relationship with another, we should first seek a loving one with our selves.

I am providing the local(NY), and national Domestic Violence Hotline #'s:
800-621 HOPE and 800 770-SAFE
" regard your neighbor's gain as your gain, and thier loss as your loss"