The Many Faces of Ego
In service of the egoic self, we may very often find ourselves contributing through self delusion, adulation, declarations, etc.,to induce a sense of importance and superiority.
The ego out of control demands recongition. In our pursuit of spiritual growth,we may renounce certains behaviors, attitudes, ideologies etc.,in an attempt to depart from our egoic selves, and sometimes in that act, we develop larger egos, supported by a sense of superiority, because of the higher than thou path we delude ourselves into taking.
No matter what form it takes, the ego is pathlogical. Whenever there's a feeling of inferiorty or superiority, that's the ego damanding attention, and it's role in relationships, will invariable affect the quality of our spirituallity, truth(self/others),through our connections with each other.
So in pursuit of a mate, observing the role of their egosin their livesand how they go about servicing it, can be an all important obsrevation,further assisting you in making better choices facilitating your spiritual asscent.
Are they aware of the many faces of how their egos play out in the relationship? Do they even seek a path of understanding? Are you in direct/indirect services of their egos?
This optical illusion of conciousness is something we all should be aware of, either with ourselves and others, and understand that our realities, becomes a reflection of our illusions.
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In the book "Conversations with God: Book I" it is stated that "for most people, love is a response to need fulfillment."
This, I believe, refers to all the reasons people enter into relationships that have nothing to do with the other person, to be happy, because they are lonely, to have children, etc. This is the ego seeking things outside of itself for validation. the Flow advocates "we are complete within oursleves." In our relationships, we need to be clear on who is talking, our selfish desires or that real you!
In pursuit of spiritual growth at times we become idealistic with a "my crap is better than your crap attitude". In successful relationships, as advocated by the FLOW its important to” take your time in the pursuit, and that you continue getting to know and love yourself & partner". If we are comfortable and happy with ourselves it facilitates the acceptance of another and successful relationships.
In “The Road Less Traveled, by M. Scott Peck, MD” there is an extensive discussion on egos and ego boundaries supporting the point that if we are in direct service to our ego. Loving and having successful relationships might be difficult; that is because, “the phenomenon of falling in love is a sudden collapse of a section of an individual’s ego boundaries, permitting one to merge his or her identity with that of another person”. For most of us this collapse of ego boundaries is ecstatic. We, and our beloved are one. Loneliness is no more.
The finger that points to the moon, is not the moon.
Human action can relect the truth,or it can reflect illusion. Often, we equate truth with thought.
Every ego is a master of selective perception and distorted interpretation to the service of the individual.
Tha baggage of old thoughts and emotions, becomes a filter through which our experiences are filtered through.
Making oneself right and others wrong, is a mental dyfunction, that perpetuate separartion and conflict between people.
Some people are addicted to anger and upset, as othrrs are to drugs.
The Intimate Enemy Within
How are we partners with the paths that we end up taking that seems to be so contrary to the desires of our hearts? Are we victims? Or are we willing participants in our outcomes, from beginning to end? In our ascent for spiritual fulfillment, we must learn to let go and release ourselves from what is self limiting. Letting go and growing beyond who and what we have been up till this moment requires a gradual awakening to what no longer works for us, followed by the inner work to release it. Following this is the realization that holding on is of no further use. Those old tried and true solutions bring us no comfort. The spiritual work of letting go and growing begins with embracing and daring to act upon.
The missing half of our lives is letting go. Letting go not only hold the key for ending what is unwanted, but the birth of a new nature. Letting go is strictly an inside job. Trying to change your life without doing the inner work, is like convincing yourself that a merry-go-round has a destination. We can decide to get off whenever want. The lesson in any painful emotional collision isn’t in the crash. We often blame the other driver, get another car, and take another road starting the cycle once more. Each collision is trying to teach us is the only thing wrong in our life is the current driver, who says he knows the way home, but obviously he doesn’t. We must learn to stop trying to change what we are getting for ourselves, and change what we are giving to ourselves. A book can have all sorts of maps pointing us in the direction of a meadow with beautiful flowers, but in order to get there, we must do the walking. And until then, we will continue partnering with the intimate enemy within.
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