Sex in a new relationship

FIRST OF ALL I WANT TO LET YOU KNOW THAT I ENJOY YOUR PANEL DISCUSSION ON WHAT'S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT! MY COMMENT ON WHAT EXPECTATIONS COMES WITH SEXUAL INTIMACY OR IS IT A MAGICAL SPONTANEOUS MAGICAL EXPERIENCE? I SEE IT AS ONE WHO ENJOYS A GOOD DELICIOUS MEAL AND COMES BACK FOR MORE.. BECAUSE YOU DID NOT HAVE ENOUGH OF IT.. IN OTHER WORDS TOO GOOD OF A GOOD THING TO LET IT GO WITHOUT HAVING MORE... I FEEL THAT IF THE COUPLE LIKES WHAT THEY SEE, WHAT THEY FEEL AND THERE IS THE ATTRACTION ,STRONG DESIRE FOR EACH ANOTHER,AND THERE IS SOME KIND OF MAGIC IN THE AIR..PERHAPS A FULL MOON, SURE WHY NOT GO WITH THE FLOW... ESPECIALLY IF THE TWO PERSONS ARE MATURE AND WELL OFF IN AGE..... TWO ADULTS THAT KNOWS WHAT IS GOING ON AND THEY REALLY LIKE EACH ANOTHER WELL THERE IS NOTHING LIKE IT...MAGIC IN THE AIR THE STRONG ELECTRICITY HAVING AN INTIMATE SEXUAL RELATONSHIP,,SPONSTANEOUS LOVE MAKING...PERHAPS ONCE IN A WILD MOON THAT RIGHT PERSON MIGHT BE THERE TO HELP ONE OTHER IN HARD TIMES...YES I DO EXPECT IT TO BE MORE THEN JUST ONE WILD NIGHT OF SEX MAKING.... THAT SEXUAL ENCOUNTER...SHOULD NOT JUST BE THAT....BUT IT SHOULD GROW TO A BETTER RELATIONSHIP...OF LOVE MAKING....A MAN AND WITH SPECIAL WOMAN WELL THERE IS NOTHING IN THE WORLD LIKE IT... I WISH AND HOPE I CAN FINE IT AGAIN IN MY LIFE TIME....PLEASE EXUSE MY WRITING AND GRAMMER I JUST STARTED WRITING I VERY NEW AT THIS... THANK YOU I LOVE YOU DISCUSSION ON RELATIONSHIP... WHICH IS SOMETHING I AM VERY INTERESTED IN...
GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR STAFF..PLEASE LET ME KNOW THE NEXT TIME THERE IS A DISCUSSION ON RELATIONSHIP...PEACE.

My point is that to ensure that you have a relationship outcome that is more than a one night fling, and mutually fulfilling,time must be taken to know the other person, to get beyond the externals that may give no insight into the character of the person. Additionally, time should be taken to know yourself and understand your real motivations, that may have nothing to do with the other person. The point is, in my opinion, that Love is a choice not a mystical magical experience.

Love...well I believe it should be the motivating factor. Whether you choose to be intimate or not. Being true to yourself and the other person counts. We are confronted with what we value morally as a part of our makeup and if you do not honor that in yourself then I believe your headed for confusion .Getting to know a person and who they are with time will manifest itself and you will be ready to make that decision.We live in a world that is surround by sexual pleasure and the immediate gratification of serving yourself and not looking out for the others. As adults we are free to make choices that we hope will be for our lasting benefit and happiness but when you overlook what you really want then you are lying to yourself. Sexual intimacy is a very personal matter and it has to be respected . Too many times people just go through the motions without the emotional. So be sure know yourself and what you truly are looking for . We can only blame ourselves when we going into it with our eyes close.

Belise

How do you begin to be true to yourself? How do you honor yourself? Are they the same thing? How do you be true to the other person? i believe these are processes, at what point do they begin? Most folks make assumptions, in a relationship it's important to be specific.

Honesty! Truth! Honor...being real. What a virtue wouldn't you say.You can begin by assessing your mistakes and realizing how you have grown if at all. What makes you feel good about yourself and that other person and your interaction. Many people are afraid of being truthful and honest in the beginning of a relationship. Why? There are many factors...and fear of rejection is one of them. Perhaps a overlap in relationships.Am I worthy of that persons love and devotion can I live up to there expectations of what they are looking for in a partner. Respect is essential. Honoring yourself and being true to yourself are just about the same if you really want a meaningful and lasting relationship . Be it in friendships or love relationships.It is a beautiful union to have all that you desire in that mate and then some... Too many times we do not go into the relationship looking at the most important factors that we are discussing. Yes you have to ask for what you want. So what you are looking for in a mate. EXAMPLE:If it is not with a view to marriage then DO NOT waste anyones time...be real and uncover your mask yourself. Believe me if that person is just as real as you are . There is a good chance that your headed for a good start at really being loved ..

Belise

Sex in a new relationship?? As you know for men and women its different. For both parties or one individual it may be a relationship of convenience (looking for a specific need to be satisified) be it sex or whatever. And in some instances both parties are aware and comfortable with that objective. For some men/women especially in a relationship of convenience (sex is sex is sex); no strings and if that's what you're looking for and find it that's great. But if its not, hopefully you've taken the time to get to know the person, talked about your expections and have decided to have safe sex whether it be with a condom or getting tested TOGETHER for sexually transmitted diseases.