Relationships and the larger community

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Friendship!!!

Do u think we should have variety in the genders of our friendships? Do men have to only be friends with men and do women have to only be friends with women? I have a couple of male friends and would like to have more. I am talking about the heterosexual guy that is a lot of fun to be with, unpretentious, just all around good company, and wants the same. No pressure of sex, just plain ole good “openness/intimacy” on a friendship level.....strictly platonic. I find it difficult to establish friendships with males, though I have a couple that I can honestly say we are close friends. One is like my younger brother and we talk about anything. Another is a little more mature in age..... truly a good friend, we hang out on occasion, talk about the women he date, the men I date, social issues etc. (And for the record, both are very sociable, good looking men, accomplished in their own right). I love having them as friends. Other than that, I find it challenging to make true male friends. For some reason, maybe it’s me, men do not like to just be friends with women.....or at least it doesn’t happen very often. I am talking about the type of friendship that I described above. Maybe I am being a bit naive about this, but I think it should happen much more often than it does......two people of the opposite sex, no matter the physical attractiveness, just friends in every sense of the word........every man or women is not meant to be a sex partner. My wish as I gracefully age into the “golden years” (a baby boomer) that we can look at each other and embrace one another in commune that offers support to our spiritual, personal, professional growth as human beings.. I hope that we do not allow our busy lives to interfere with that commune, because as we get up in age we need not only family but good friends of both genders, that keep us spiritually connected as human beings. Being connected is so important, it’s foods for our souls.

It may seem like men and women cannot be friends, but I think, it's more that we have been so inundated by society that intimacy is a sexual act that we both eye each other warily regarding the possibility. The fact that you have found two males friends shows that it is not impossible. Have you ever spoken to either of your male friends about your friendship? What makes your freindship with them possible as opposed to other men who would view the intimacy of true friendship as a sexual comeon? You have to be selective about who you bring into your inner circle whether men or women.

Not to tot my own horn, but we are friends because of my openness to receive them as they are, non-judgmental ......... will help if/when I can..........and because I am genuine, warm and caring......(that is my gift)...............people tend to want to pour their hearts out to me ( I am a good listener), people tend to warm right up to me. That is why I know I have to be careful of who I let in my inner circle, it could be interpreted as a weakness rather than a strength. When people are comfortable with u, they reveal things to u that ordinally they may not. Based on the conversations we have had, I just know the neither of them would be a good fit for me beyond friendship...... we can laugh, joke and hang out that is it.........our personalities and "lanuage of love" would conflict.