Intimacy, Passion and Pleasure!

Where do our notions regarding sex and sexuality come from? In a Flow Forum at the Intimate Engagements Boutique in Mont Clair, NJ, we explored many aspects of sexuality. This dialogue was not about technique or the physical act, but about achieving a level of intimacy that allows open and honest sexual exploration. I believe that our sexual concepts come from our primary caregivers, religion, socialization and hearsay. These concepts, if we look at our histories, have not served us as self-affirming individuals or in many of our relationships. From these influences, too many of us are in a state of confusion, denial, guilt and low self-esteem. Do our definitions of man and womanhood mean sex by the numbers? Do individuals speak with their partners regarding what gives them sexual pleasure or do they just assume or, not uncommon, afraid? Is who you are based solely upon your performance or a healthy definition of yourself? Does the lack of sexual intimacy in a relationship mask other unresolved issues? THE FLOW WANTS TO KNOW!