Are You Ready

Being ready! It takes alot of soul searching and time with yourself to understand if you truly are ready. Running from one relationship to another is not the answer and it will leave you feeling very empty when you start to think about the way your feeling .Wow! What a catch you might think but who are you! What do you have to offer to the relationship. Are you comtemplating dating with a view to marriage . There are many questions that need your answering.Can you live up to the responsibility it requires. Are you looking to have your desires met sexually and then what. You need to prepare yourself for that special somone when he or she comes along. YOur foundation should be strong not weak and wishy washy.You have to clean house emotionally and in every way possible even your bad habits. Trust me everything that glitters is not gold so get to know you and then you will know if your ready and if he is or she is the one.

Belise

We are all in a constant state of becoming and I believe becoming "better versions of ourselves". Though ther is a core "you", our experiences over time can, and it can be argued, will change who we are and hopefully our chances for success in our relationships. For instance, I am a different person now, at the end of my marriage than I was in the beginning. My sense of self, my criteria for future partners, my life is different.

So who you are is a moving target! With that in mind, the certianity of change should be accepted and embraced in a relationship, with the goalthat will, #1 benifit each individual and, #2 consequently, the relationship. Individual growth does not necessarily mean staying together.

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There is no dought that we change with every experience we have . Whether we are in a relationship or not. You have to keep the marriage/relationship alive and the commitment.No matter what is happening regarding your personal growth. But it is important not to neglect each other. As a latin woman we honor our men and respect them knowing that we too are individuals who contribute to the well being of the institution. We love being in love!Everyone has a different take on it of course. It is for life with us and as it should be. There is so much to know and explore together. When you really really love your partner you respest the differences and honor the reasons for staying together. You embrace the good times and the bad times together. sounds old fashion well so be it. But it works....if it ends then you better think about what part you played in it.

Belise

I believe that your personal growth should be a function of a healthy thriving relationship. It should result in your feeling good about who you are, not just butterflies in your stomach. Yes, there are challenges (to me good and bad are relative terms) to be encountered, but a healthy, thriving relationship does not mean a perfect one. However, it does, in my opionion, mean it should always be a place of personal growth and real intimacy (not just physical) or there is not reason for the union. M. Scott Peck, author of The Road Less Travelled says, "to love someone who cannot respond with spiritual growth is to waste energy."