When To Pull the Plug?
The time to pull the plug, varies from person, to person.... Working as a director at domestic violence
facilities, gave me a lot of insight as to how people will react to similar situations...
On the outside, as an observer, we don't see and feel all the internal dynamics, that shapes a person
point of pulling the plug.... It's very complex. It as though, the rest of the world is watching a movie staring you,(at least that how I felt), and they see some of the things you see, and they want to know , why don't he run, for his safety... Making a decision to run for cover, or pulling the plug, is a very difficult decision to make ... especially if it involves a lot of history and other lives... If the person decide to do so, the day they came to that conclusion, takes a hell of a lot of pondering, and possibly, re visiting a lot of painful moments..... It aint easy... so I know when I'm watching the movies, why sometimes they don't run...
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I read pulling the plug and would like to know in regards to doing that do you have closure or do you just drop a person like its hot without communication...If so why?If no why not and is this healthy?
For the most part, we are socialized to believe that relationships have to persist, despite all odds, particularily, in terms of marriage, it's supposed to last forever. But, looking at the relationship landscape, we see that's it is hardly the case.
I believe that people come into our lives to take us to a certian place, for a reson, a season, or a lifetime. What and where the experience takes us is dependent upon the individuals involved. However, in my view, love and relationships are choices we make, and choices that we willfully make again and again. When that choice becomes and obligation the nature of the relationship changes.
In ending a relationship, of course, there shuld be communication. But, this is easier said than done. communication is more than just talking, it's mutual self relevation. Not many of us get there. And, depending on the people involved commuication can be futile.
Relationships should be self affirming. Through relationships we should become the best version of ourselves. Staying in a relationship that does not achieve those ends is unhealthy and self defeating.