Mr/Mrs Right

Well, I think the point of finding the right one, is the point of how we arrive to ourselves. To say the right one, I believe limits our possibilities, and impedes the process of self development. Certainly we have some requirements. But what is the right one?? I think as we evolve, there is no such person as the right one. It's an illusion that places emphasis on the external existence, stunting our growth.

For me, we can only develop an attitude that allow us to see the beauty in all. Everyone has a questionable criteria in their back pocket, that at every stage of their development, should also morph with profoundness.
This to me is spiritual growth.
And I think this process will begin to allow us to see how, this right person that we are looking for, has less to do with a real person, than what it speaks to about ourselves.

Of course everyone should meet a fundamental criteria, i.e., decency, honest ( in particularly with themselves, because I'll reap the benefits, one way the other), respectful and etc...

Most of the time, there exist in one individual, a sort of psychological hook, for the other to hang their coat of projections onto. And very often, when we recognize a trait in another individual that gives us discomfort, (of which everyone has some traits, the right persons(?), or not),that speaks our internal make up, and could be part of something unknown about ourselves, a manifestation of some inner dynamics. So for me, the right person is me. If not, then for me, it begins to feel like passive victimhood. I am in a constant state of becoming.

Life does not discriminate in its various ways, awakening and leading us to discover our basic identity.
This is the first time in history, men and women have begun to relate to each other, outside of our prescribed roles. So the inherent friction can serve to be a passage of which we all reach ourselves. And at this juncture of history, we are all, men and women, apprentices. All involved in the process of creating something new. This is a fascinating period we live in. There are no models of the past that serve relationship, or how couple relate today. This is becoming apparent to me, through the forums... True communication is trying to be born for the first time. I welcome the conflict to break away from the outdated patterns, that has been predetermining our lives.

Question. Are we confining ourselves to the poles of intimacy, sharing our depth, pushing buttons, while neglecting or avoiding actual relationships?

I have arrived to understand that, loving myself means to live in what is given, through the expression of love... Sure we could debate for the two hundred years, what is love, but that does very little for my accepting and appreciating the greatest gift a human can give another, from their context of understanding what love is... My avoiding the realization of this, may speaks to my own ambiguities,and inner dynamics, absolving me to acknowledge people from the best space of where they are.. So for me, i have to constantly work on being the right one for me..........