Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Action speaks louder than words" is an adage that we have come to accept as true in many arenas of life....It does not work in relationships
...nothing takes the place of communication in a relationship...Language is an essential element (verbal, written, body etc.) if a relationship is to flourish, grow and bring those involved to what they are seeking from the experience. Often times when you are able to trace a failed relationhip back to when "trouble in paradise" began--- someone stopped communicating or someone stopped listening. (More tragically in some cases, genuine communication was never established) The misbegotten notion that our partners should know what we need, think, feel or desire (especially when sometimes we don't know ourselves) is often the beginning of the end. Sometimes words are not spoken out of fear---fear of rejection, fear of reaction, fear of responsibility, but the fear is detrimental.

How do you keep the "music" going???????????????????????

How do you keep the "music" going???????????????????????

You must make sure that the tune is playing within your self! Audrey Chapman says in her book "Seven Atitude Adjustments for Finding a Loving Man""

You need to make changes within yourself that you seek in others.

The measure of Things

I think the measure of any thing in our lives, should be held against, how does it make us feel and affect us, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually,
and physically.
This includes from tooth paste, through our connections with each other.

At any given moment in our lives, when looking at these area, the question should be asked, I am the source of how I am being affected, or am I allowing some external source to affect me, in one , or all the areas.

Even through our relationships, we must hold each other accountable and ask the question, how does what you and I do or say, at any given momment in our connection, contribute to a loving, healthy relationship, should that be the goal.

Very often, in our pursuit of love, we are very often guided by acid reflux or the toss of chicken bones in the air for some sense of how do we move forward in a loving way.

I think, if we are deliberate in raising the questions I mentioned earlier, to ourselves and each other, how do we contribute to those four areas, we at least have a guide post that will assist us in creating a path, that will provide us with reflection and feedback, creating dialogue to assist us in how can we make the best connection, or should we conntinue it as well...

So folks, lets put Mr Purdue
out of business and get rid of the magic chicken bones.

And maybe that quizzy feeling the next time is not ascid reflux, but the beginning of something very special, that can be guided by, how does what we do and say to each other, affect and support us, emotionally, spiritually, intellectually and physically; and are we truly supporting a healthy loving relationship with each other.
Or should I be reaching for the Peptmo Bismo....

Well, Sonia, I certianly feel your passion. However, I wonder if such passion can get in the way of making appropiate assessments. You speak about YOUR desires, YOUR wants, YOUR passions... does this really have anything to do with that "very special" person?

I wonder do we crave a passion that may have nothing to with love? Like a drug that may take an individual to higher heights, but in the long run, is it really good for the body. Read my "what's love got to do with it" post. Ther are things to explore that may have nothing to do with love per se, but evert=ything to do with love, if you really wnat to attain it.

Why, I want to thank you for your kindness and interest in my comments on the measure of things...

I appreciate, you taking the time to read my comments.. as you know there was alot of errors, due to the fact that i wrote it without checking for mistakes..and submitted the colon without reviewing it... i hit the post tap instead of preview tap...

nevertheless, i can use all the help i can get on the topic of relationships..i did read your comments on what 's love got to do with it..I was amazed to read the meaning of love..... there is so much passion in the word love... i was surprise that love have alot to do with passionate love making....in which i think i might be confuse...about...love and passionate love making... in which i believe i am in need of ... passionate loving making... there is nothing like it...especially when it is with someone you are deeply into..i mean you like alot.....which is something i have no luck with....only once in a wild mood .....and once is not enough... when there is so much burning fire inside of me.....oh the passion of love making....

well, thank you again.. for opening up doors and letting me into your space...it help when someone take the time and take the interest to see my view, and to help someone as myself to see and improve as I take the walk thru life's path of relationships..